People are competing on Facebook, in weddings; why this need to show off? You know that money you are about to blow in one day, you can use it to invest in your marriage, you can start the process of buying or building a home, you can save up for the needs of the children you will have because you need money to raise a family.
Why not start your marriage financially healthy and not in debt?
Marriage is what is more important than a
wedding”, continued the father.
“Dad, if you don’t want to support us it’s
okay”, said Kola.
The fiancé stopped him saying, “No my love,
dad has a point. I actually find the idea of a
small wedding not just wise and
economical, but also intimate. Marriage is
just you and me, not people”.
The father spoke, “My son, in all the years
you have been a man, you have never come
to me asking for money, but now you are
asking for money to put up a show? I look
further, I look at your marriage. I admire
how people come together in a wedding
committee to raise money and I wonder,
what if couples and people use that same
energy to put up a business that will uplift
families. Those members who will be part of
your wedding committee, imagine if they
become your investors, imagine if you build
a company where you can make profit and
feed your homes. Something sustainable.”
Kola and his fiancé nodded.
“My son, I have longed for the day you
would come and ask me to invest in your
business idea. But today I will make the first
move”, the father said taking his cheque
book from his drawer.
He wrote on the cheque then gave it to the
fiancé.
“Here my son, this is a cheque of five million
naira, not for your wedding but as start up
capital for a business of your choice. I am
giving the cheque to your wife because as
the Proverbs 31 woman said, she is to walk
with you in building an empire for your
family. Focus on your family, give your family
the best; forget about the public and
opinions of people who don’t matter. Build
a future for your family. Build your family on
a foundation of surplus not debt”.
“Thank you so much” said the fiancé.
Kola stood up with tears in his eyes. His
father stood up too.
The father and son hugged.
“Thank you dad for being a great figure and
your counsel. I don’t know what to say. You
have challenged me not to merely get
married but to have a vision, a vision for my
family. I don’t know what to say” he spoke.
The father held his shoulder, “You will make
a great husband and father. I wish I had the
same counsel when I was getting married,
all those people I fed on my wedding day
didn’t add value to my marriage. In fact, if I
was to organize an event and feed
multitudes, I would do so for the less
fortunate and those in need.
Marriage is not for show.
