– Anytime my wife and I had some misunderstanding, she does involve the children
– They will disrespect and keeping malice with me to the extend of if I send them errands, she will stop them
– I have apologized to her on my knees all to no avail. I am tired of my wife turning my children against me.
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My name is Paul, I am married to my beautiful wife Vivian by name for the past 16 years . We have 5 wonderful children together Jemima 15, Isaac 12, Elizabeth 9, Samuel 6 and Tabitha 3. We are based in Liberia. We both are working and earning well by God grace. I have few issues with my wife that brought me here to get some advice.
Anytime my wife and I had some misunderstanding, she does involve the children. The oldest 3 she tells them everything including how I cheated on her, she also feed them with lies that I am a bad man and I want to kills her. She tells them so many things to make them hate me. They will disrespect and keeping malice with me to the extend of if I send them errands, she will stop them and tell them not to go.
No matter how much I shouted at them to go, they will not obey me because their mother has the final say. For example my wife and I are having some misunderstandings for over 3 weeks now, we are not talking or sleeping in the same room. I have tried to make things works for us but she refused.
The children are also keeping malice with me. I sent Elizabeth to go and get some water for me, she obeyed and went to the kitchen, few moments later she came back empty handed staring at me in shock. I asked her what about the water she said her mother said I should go in the kitchen to get the water myself. At that moment I just couldn’t take it anymore I exploded in anger I went to the kitchen we had a heated arguments she pour water on me I really wanted to hit her so hard but I control my anger and walked away.
I left the house for 3 days to cool down, because I was so angry with her I just wanted to be alone. I then went home after 3 days,my 3 oldest children acted like they hadn’t seen me they were busy with their phone/ tablets and it was only my 2 youngest that were missing me they both hugged me like never before me.
My youngest daughter refused to leave my room she even slept in my room. I could see how much she misses me. My wife on her side acted like nothing too her normal behaviour as usual. For the sake of my 2 youngest children I sat her down and talked with her. How we should make things better for the sake of our children especially the younger ones.
I have apologized to her on my knees all to no avail. I am tired of my wife turning my children against me, they have becoming out of control … I can’t correct them, it pains me a lot to see my own children disrespecting me. I don’t want them to grow up and hate me all their life I want to have my family back. A happy home how we used to be before but my wife don’t want to cooperate with me I thought this lock-down will bring us together so we could sort out our differences and fix our marriage to become better but all to no avail.
I am writing this sitting inside my car in the compound because I can’t even go inside the house because I have nobody to talk to my 2 youngest children that keep me busy are asleep. I am so lonely all alone please how can I put an end to all this I am fed up …
You need to inolve your in laws and her spiritual leaders to help talk sense to her.
I also think you are lacking in some of your responsibilities. Your children won’t be behaving like you have said to you, if you are the one feeding them and paying their bills, no matter what your wife have told them. You need to get the grip of your family.