THE CHAT ROOM : PART 1 – 10
PART 8
Temi Akintade
I was lucky to have met Bose at home. She was also returning to school the following day.
“You shouldn’t have had sex with him, Paulina! This is extreme!” Bose stressed.
It was my turn to be surprised. “I don’t understand. Don’t you also do it? You told me you had a boyfriend too remember?”
“Of course I don’t. I lied to you to feel among. I had no boyfriend because I am focused. Boys our age have nothing to offer.
The first thing every teenage boy and girl should be after is God and then your skills and studies. At the right time, we will be in a good relationship that will lead to marriage.” Bose said.
My jaw dropped open. “I thought you had someone willing to marry you?”
“Yes. He is still on my neck and my parents all know him but I have told myself that I will not have sx before marriage.”
My heart broke.it seemed to me that I have made a huge mistake.” why?”
“When God told us that sx before marriage is a sin, he meant it for our benefit. See, when you have sex outside marriage, it does you more harm than good. There will be a spiritual connection, and bIood connection too.
And I hope you know that sx opens your sxual appetite more- before you know it, you won’t be able to resist it anymore. Sx leaves you with some parts of the person you have slept with. So imagine if you don’t end up marrying that person.
That means you will go about carrying that part of that person for life. Having sex before marriage also makes you have unnecessary blood ties. You don’t know the disease, or altar that is working against him or in his family line.
He joins it with yours and then before you know it, you become one with him. Besides having sex outside marriage leaves you with unnecessary experiences that you don’t need before marriage.”
I rubbed my face. Despite the cool air blowing around us, I suddenly felt hot.
“Besides,” she continued. “Sx was designed to be for couples inside marriage and that is why when it is done outside the context of marriage, it brings unnecessary issues like heartbreaks and the rest.”
“How did you know all of these?”
“I always attended teenagers conference in my church where they teach teenagers on knowing your purpose in life.”
A tear dropped down my face. “Why didn’t you drag me along with you?”
“You always ignored me. Besides, you were too busy chatting on the phone.”
Later on, Bose told me to buy a pregnancy test kit once I get to school. I asked her how she got to know a test kit. She said she always bought it for her elder sister who was expecting her third child when she went visiting.
That night, as I folded my clothes into my bag, I made a mental note to speak to my mother about what has been happening between me and Tayo. I needed to confide in someone at least her.
She opened the door of my room and walked in. Typical of African mothers, she was trying a wrapper around her chest. She dumped some cash into my luggage.
“That is ten thousand naira. Use it well and spend it wisely. I went through hell before getting that money.” She walked out of my room.
My heart broke. How would I tell her what I had in mind when her face doesn’t even look friendly? I decided to leave it for another day.
But that night, I couldn’t sleep because I dreamt that I was pre.gnant.
THE CHAT ROOM : PART 1 – 10
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